If you are looking for advice on how to date women, then this post hopefully will give you a few courses of action. When you treat women correctly on the first date, they will likely be open for other dates, regardless of what you look like or your financial position. There is one key ingredient, and that is charm, charm, charm. Although there is such a thing as too flattering, girls will tend to forgive that. There is however, a few must not dos such as:
1) Do not kowtow to her excessively such as
a. Making her feel so important that you look needy. If you are praising her or giving her a complement, do it jokingly. You will achieve the complement yet still appearing to be a person of substance and stature.
b. Asking her to compare you former lovers – on a first date you will look like less because of the lack of history Do not push this rhetorical button; it is too soon to get into this level of feedback.
c. Delegating control of the date to her. Questions should not be open ended. If you are not sure of what she wants, then give her a list of two, or at most three choices of things to do next. If she is not happy with any of the choices, then you have have not done sufficient research as to what her needs are. You have screwed up, you deserve to be dumped. (On subsequent dates, you can ask for ideas, but on a first date you should appear to be in control, well planned, but flexible).
2) The next common mistake is trying to impress her too much. Do not boast and crow, and do not say how much money you make. Just be a considerate partner, hear and remember what she says, and pick up the bill. Date one is female centric, it is not about you. If she wants to know more about you, then give them a solid well thought out answer but no answer should take longer than one minute, or else you are in the danger zone of saying too much and coming across as boasting or bragging.
3) Do not put her on a pedestal. That advice is more important if the woman is very pretty. Very pretty women are used to being on a pedestal. Did you ever notice how often that really attractive women are hanging out with hoodlums? That is because hoods treat them normally and they feel like they are being appreciated for what they are. In many cases the hoods are abusive, but they like that because at least the bum is treating them differently than everyone else does. Nothing is more tiring to attractive women as getting hit on – they have heard it all before. The more successful tack is to just ask them something about themselves, such as what they are doing, where they work, etc.
4) Wanting to go steady too soon in a relationship. Both you and her should be obviously playing the field initially. If you come across as someone who would commit exclusively either on or just after the first date, you will seem needy and diminished in their eyes. No woman wants to be dating a needy loser. You have to come across as successful in relationships, and therefore desirable in her eyes.
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