Secrets Of A Successful First Date

First dates are your best opportunity to dazzle someone. But it is also the most likely point where you will turn them off forever. A lot is riding on the line here. You are walking a tightrope between keeping the discussion animated and boring her with your exploits. The line between complimenting them or just being creepy. Or the line between being dazzling or being a dud. It is important that you are genuine with them as to who you are. Do not put on a big act about being prince charming if you would never normally think of opening a door for someone. On the other hand, do not go out of your way to be a slob either, even if that is how you tend to be in private. With the importance of a first date in mind and the possible pitfalls, I have compiled for you a list of don't s that you need to avoid on a first date. I know because I have committed all of them at least once.

1. Crank One Out

This concept was first introduced to the mass public in the movie "There's Something About Mary" – starring Ben Stiller , Cameron Diaz and Matt Dillon Either before, or during your pre-date shower, jerk yourself off. Once you have drained your libido, you are less likely to do something embarrassing like get a hard-on. Also, you will find that you can focus better and concentrate more on what your date is saying rather than just daydreaming about getting her between the sheets later. If you are too horny on a date, you will just end up stumble tongued and will likely just stare at her legs and breasts all night. A sure date ender for most women. You may try your best to listen, but your mind will be elsewhere and you will not be able to keep up an intelligent conversation. The biggest advantage of an empty barrel is that if the evening goes particularly well and you do end up in bed, you will last longer and be better able to satisfy her. And you will likely be able to control yourself to let her orgasm  multiple times. Do that and she will be your sex slave forever.


2. Get Her Name Right

If you have never made the mistake of getting a girl's name wrong on the first place, let me tell you, it is not pretty. It is pretty much all downhill from that moment. To make sure you don’t make this blunder, write her name on your cell phone and check it throughout the night to remind yourself.


3. Eat Small Bites

Taking small bites allows you to be able to participate in your side of a conversation more quickly. Also, have the courteously to try to pace our your side of the conversation so you end just at the point she is swallowing. It allows for a good pace, and no awkward silences. I was on a first date once, and started to talk with my mouth still half full. A piece of my dinner flew out of my mouth and we both watched it land right in the middle of her cleavage. Disgusting! The evening abruptly ended moments later. I never saw her again.


4. If You Watch Porn, Keep It Private

She does not want to know that you are into granny porn! At least not yet. Make a habit of tidying up your apartment before every date, just in case. And that means hiding the porn as well. Do not forget to check your DVD player as well. It would be less than optimal for your evening's prospects to power up your DVD to watch The Notebook only to have it auto load the last DVD that you watched. Hot Horny Grannies of Mulholland Drive is not likely to impress.


5. Don’t Get Too Drunk

Alcohol of some sort is almost a given on a first date. It can really help some initial timidity on the part of both people. However, it can also make you look like a total jackass. Limit yourself to two alcoholic drinks. When the waiter asks you for your drink order, have them also bring a large bottle of either flat water or sparkling water to the table. This allows you to drink mostly water. Making mistakes and drinking too much is a common mistake. One I have made myself. But the results speak for themselves. Only one time did my drinking excessively not get in the way of subsequent dates, and that was when my date turned out to be a complete lush. It was fun at first, but I broke it off after a few months.


6. The Ex Is Verboten

Talking about an ex in specifics is a mistake. She really does not care about your failed relationships. She wants to know if there is any possibility of building a relationships with you. Keep conversation light and fun. Read a few magazines in the afternoon before your date so you have interesting things to talk about. You have to keep her happy and communicating with you. Without that, you will not get a second chance.


With any luck, you can pick up on a few of the insights that I have gained over the years to make you a master of first dates.


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