Tips For Online Dating

Pluses of Online Dating

One of the most amazing things that modern technology has offered to the human race is the entire new way that it is possible to meet someone new. Yes, I am talking about online dating sites. In the hundreds of thousands of years that human beings have been meeting and interacting with each other, there has never been anything that approaches the reach, the utility, and the convenience of online dating.

Up until the last decade, you were very limited by distance and connections. In most cases, people met someone within a few miles of where they happened to be living, working or going to school at the time. With online dating, it is now totally possible to meet someone from any corner of the world. This is true, literally, figuratively and actually! The most amazing thing is that you can look through what they say about themselves and shortlist a bunch of people that you are interested in that also have some things in common with you. On top of this, most dating systems have searching algorithms that will help you find all those people in the first place. It is just so amazingly easy.



Minuses of Online Dating

Online dating sites are not foolproof. One problem is that people say what they are looking for, but they really do not know exactly what they want. People are much better at saying what they do not want in a partner than they are in saying what they want. Even so, people will often end up falling for someone who has many characteristics that they say they would not touch with a ten foot pole. On top of all that, online dating sites are the victims of members who exaggerate about themselves a lot, or just plain lie. For example, the hot young woman you think you’ve been chatting up online could be a 500 pound rat-catcher from Arsspik, Siberia. Or vise versa. Men and women both tend to post younger and more flattering pictures of themselves before they gained 40 pounds, and had more hair. You just never really know if the person you are interacting with is telling the truth. Be careful! Lots of married men and women troll dating sites looking for some action on the side. So keep your BS detector set to maximum sensitivity.

The bigger dating sites will actually have millions of profiles for you to search through, and that is a curse! Even with the computerized help, the task is daunting. How can you zero in better? Of course if you are like me you just need to search for "deaf, dumb, oversexed female who owns liquor store"!



Other Online Dating Recommendations

A name like THREEINCHTOOL is unlikely to gain you much positive attention after all. Chose a name that nobody would be embarrassed to say that they are looking at your profile. Another gem of advice is to let out your personal details gradually. Do not rush it. Pacing out the release of your personal information will give you more chances to dig out the details on them. During this time period, ask some of the same questions in slightly different ways, and look for inconsistencies. Someone who is lying will slip up. Talk on the phone a few times before meeting in person. Use a phone anonymizing service for the first few calls to protect you from any potential wackos that you might connect with.

Use a recent, accurate picture of yourself. You want them to like you for who you are, so present that person from the get-go. Do not put up a picture on your profile that you would be ashamed to show in public. You may be tempted to do something daring, but do not. You will only attract the wrong crowd. Also, although dating sites are supposed to be anonymous, pictures are not, and someone you know may recognize you, so do not put up any sort of compromising picture. When talking online, do not whine! Keep anything that mentions past relationships on the up and up. Relationships end all the time, and likely because both parties were at fault to some extent. Do not try to shift all the blame to your ex, that makes you look like someone who is not accountable for their actions, and that is a huge turn off for most women.

When it comes to you first 'in person' date, there are a few things you can do to make it more likely to be positive. Chose a time to meet early in the day, preferably over a coffee. Nobody expects a coffee date to last a long time, and if you decide it is not going to work out, you do not have to manufacture an excuse to leave. Second, if your date is not over coffee, set your phone alarm to go off a half hour into the date. That way, if it’s not going well, you can jet with an excuse. Lastly, let them know you’re also seeing other people. It is best to be honest, and ask them for the same thing.

If you are truly fortunate, the chemistry will be amazing and you will click as soon as you meet. If not, then there is always the next lucky lady. Good luck!


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