Even if you are not an outdoorsy kind of person, if you are dating over the course of a summer, you are likely to find yourself and your date communing with good old mother nature at some point. Even if roughing it means a cottage with a deck and boathouse rather than a tent on a backpacking trail, you will likely find many romantic moments as you enjoy the invigorating lift that being out in the country gives you. All the fresh air and sunsets are likely to boost your libido significantly, and get yourself and your partner in a sensual state of mind. The nights will also add their share of enjoyment as you sneak down to the water to skinny-dip under the full moon and the wash of stars in the milky-way. Likely all of these activities will result in 'sex in the wild'. There is however an element of health risk involved, so you should not just do the 'down and dirty' without being prepared. Big city living means that you do not have some of the natural resistance to bacteria that your cave dwelling ancestors did, so you must be more prepared than they were able to be.
Problem: Dirty Sex (And Not “Good” Dirty, Either)
You have to remember that when you’re camping, you’re going to get dirty. All those nature hikes and long walks will cover you in dirt. Normal outdoor activities like starting a fire, cooking over a campfire, cutting wood, and just the smoke and bug sprays leaves you a much less desirable person to be around from an intimacy point of view. No matter how amorous you might feel, the Hollywood movie version of an idyllic and loving camping trip or nature walk are unlikely to happen unless you take care of basic sanitation necessities. So there are a few recommendations. Wash up thoroughly before bedtime. When roughing it in the bush, take a container of 'wet wipes' with you to help keep yourself sanitary in your nether regions.
Solution: Wash As Much As Possible
There are ways around this pitfall, of course. Most parks have access to shower facilities, but sometimes these are overloaded, or sometimes you may not be close enough to avail ourselves of them. Go during off-peak hours when you’ll have some privacy – waiting until all the kids in the park are in bed is the perfect time to go. Sneak in there together, and get dirty after you’ve got clean. An added bonus is that the sound of the shower will mask most modest sex noises, and will provide easy clean-up when you’ve finished. Be prepared for some quizzical and accusing looks if there are people waiting for the shower when the two of you exit. Odds are you’ll still be in post-coital bliss, so you won’t mind much.
Problem: Privacy
Tents are just not good at blocking sound. When you have sex at night, especially if one of you is a screamer, be prepared for anything from amusing looks or accusing looks from the campsites around you. In the worst case you may get a visit from the park authorities (and hopefully not in the middle of the act).
Solution: Really Long-g-g Nature Hikes
This is likely the least embarrassing and most satisfying solution. It is really a sort of an intimate commune with nature. But first, you need to think about safety. First, watch out for wildlife – especially lions and tigers and bears – OH MY! – just kidding, but there are some animals that you have to consider depending on your region. Many areas have bears, but in the mountain regions, there are some cats that may cause concern. Most other meat eaters tend to shy away from people, but if you are in the deep south, you can run into reptiles that are not so pleasant. Nothing dampens the libido more than running for your life. Second, do not go on a long sex trek at night. Better to do it during the day, when wildlife is less prevalent, and you can see clearly as you run for you life if some scary animal shows up. Third, bring a pad or blanket to lay on so you can avoid getting dirt and bugs on you while you do the dirty. You should also let your camping buddies know where you are going in case you do not come back. That way, if you are too exhausted after repeated sex and cannot make it back to the campsite, they can send the park rangers out for you.
So this summer, enjoy copious, carefree, camping coitus carefully!
Online Dating
A lot of people seem to think that all gay men are shallow when seeking someone for a permanent relationship with. But is that really true? Of course many of us prefer someone who is healthy as well as physically fit; heck you can say the same thing about heterosexuals as well. So much so that sometimes it is hard for people that do not fit that physical ideal to find a partner. It can be even harder for gay men because they make up a smaller part of the general population. Some gay men are shallow and there's not a lot you can do to change that. My idea is that if they don't find you attractive they're not worth losing any sleep over and you can probably do a lot better.
With age comes wisdom, and as gay men mature, they will tend to mellow out and look for someone who is more of a friend than just a hot body. In the meantime, you are likely stuck playing the game and going to the gym regularly so that you can increase your pick up potential. Looks tends to be very important to younger gay men, but it is not the only thing. Not many guys want to date someone that is pot bellied. Personally for me I have to be very attracted to the person before I even think about about approaching another man, let alone start a relationship with them. I guess that makes me shallow, but satisfied.
Why are a lot of young gay men interested in slim trim athletic types? Well lets see, guys in general are sexual creatures and want to have sex with good looking guys. This also holds true for many young men are only looking for sex and not any form of long term commitment. Of course attractiveness standards vary with different cultures and races, I have a few over weight friends that have no trouble getting dates and having serious relationships. But when it comes right down to it, it really does not matter why someone might focus on specific physical characteristics as the key features that they are looking for in a partner. Some people just behave this way when it comes to picking a mate its just who they are.
I know many people in my life that I would not consider dating, but I still like them as friends. I have some wonderful friends that I love as much as my brothers, and I met many of them on the Internet. That's right, as a matter of fact most of the guys I have dated in the past few years I have met through internet dating sites. You might think that I am callous because I can see what they look like before I put the moves on them, but it is more than that. Many of them are people that I happened to meet in chat rooms on dating sites and I became interested in them because of what they had to say. I have not dated many of them, but I do consider many of them to be among my circle of friends now. Besides, one of the best advantages of online dating is that when you just don't have the time to go out socializing, it's an easy way to meet and interact with people and it's fun.
I think I am at that cusp in my life where I am transitioning from casual pickups to a long term commitment. I am not quite ready to make the commitment jump yet, but I am thinking that a few longer term relationships might help me get past the fear that I have of being exclusive with just one person. Thats where the online dating comes in, you see when you join an online dating site both you and he know where each other stands so there's no surprises. If you hook up and it turns out that you're not really interested in a particular person but you sense their being a little pushy just move on to the next person, no harm done. And if by chance they start to hassle you online, well all you have to do is block them, with online dating sites your real email address phone number and address are never given out so there's no worry about someone spying on you following you unless you were stupid and gave them your personal contact information already. The good thing is that most of the men you will meet on dating sites are decent human beings that are looking for the same things in life that your looking for.
For the most part most men do not care so much what you look like, or how you style your hair or whether or not you work out or not. They are primarily looking for someone to hang with. They want someone with the same interests, personality traits. Someone who is compassionate, caring and giving. Someone who's company they can enjoy. Someone who will be there in the morning.
So if your looking for love in all the wrong places then join an online dating site to expand your horizons. There are literally hundreds of gay dating sites just waiting to help you meet someone special. They have a variety of members from many countries all looking for someone to share their time and lives with. So what are you waiting for? Get off your tush, get online and check them out. You won't be disappointed. If nothing else you're sure to make some good friends. The link below is to a site that I found helpful when I was first starting out in the internet dating arena.
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Pluses of Online Dating
One of the most amazing things that modern technology has offered to the human race is the entire new way that it is possible to meet someone new. Yes, I am talking about online dating sites. In the hundreds of thousands of years that human beings have been meeting and interacting with each other, there has never been anything that approaches the reach, the utility, and the convenience of online dating.
Up until the last decade, you were very limited by distance and connections. In most cases, people met someone within a few miles of where they happened to be living, working or going to school at the time. With online dating, it is now totally possible to meet someone from any corner of the world. This is true, literally, figuratively and actually! The most amazing thing is that you can look through what they say about themselves and shortlist a bunch of people that you are interested in that also have some things in common with you. On top of this, most dating systems have searching algorithms that will help you find all those people in the first place. It is just so amazingly easy.
Minuses of Online Dating
Online dating sites are not foolproof. One problem is that people say what they are looking for, but they really do not know exactly what they want. People are much better at saying what they do not want in a partner than they are in saying what they want. Even so, people will often end up falling for someone who has many characteristics that they say they would not touch with a ten foot pole. On top of all that, online dating sites are the victims of members who exaggerate about themselves a lot, or just plain lie. For example, the hot young woman you think you’ve been chatting up online could be a 500 pound rat-catcher from Arsspik, Siberia. Or vise versa. Men and women both tend to post younger and more flattering pictures of themselves before they gained 40 pounds, and had more hair. You just never really know if the person you are interacting with is telling the truth. Be careful! Lots of married men and women troll dating sites looking for some action on the side. So keep your BS detector set to maximum sensitivity.
The bigger dating sites will actually have millions of profiles for you to search through, and that is a curse! Even with the computerized help, the task is daunting. How can you zero in better? Of course if you are like me you just need to search for "deaf, dumb, oversexed female who owns liquor store"!
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A name like THREEINCHTOOL is unlikely to gain you much positive attention after all. Chose a name that nobody would be embarrassed to say that they are looking at your profile. Another gem of advice is to let out your personal details gradually. Do not rush it. Pacing out the release of your personal information will give you more chances to dig out the details on them. During this time period, ask some of the same questions in slightly different ways, and look for inconsistencies. Someone who is lying will slip up. Talk on the phone a few times before meeting in person. Use a phone anonymizing service for the first few calls to protect you from any potential wackos that you might connect with.
Use a recent, accurate picture of yourself. You want them to like you for who you are, so present that person from the get-go. Do not put up a picture on your profile that you would be ashamed to show in public. You may be tempted to do something daring, but do not. You will only attract the wrong crowd. Also, although dating sites are supposed to be anonymous, pictures are not, and someone you know may recognize you, so do not put up any sort of compromising picture. When talking online, do not whine! Keep anything that mentions past relationships on the up and up. Relationships end all the time, and likely because both parties were at fault to some extent. Do not try to shift all the blame to your ex, that makes you look like someone who is not accountable for their actions, and that is a huge turn off for most women.
When it comes to you first 'in person' date, there are a few things you can do to make it more likely to be positive. Chose a time to meet early in the day, preferably over a coffee. Nobody expects a coffee date to last a long time, and if you decide it is not going to work out, you do not have to manufacture an excuse to leave. Second, if your date is not over coffee, set your phone alarm to go off a half hour into the date. That way, if it’s not going well, you can jet with an excuse. Lastly, let them know you’re also seeing other people. It is best to be honest, and ask them for the same thing.
If you are truly fortunate, the chemistry will be amazing and you will click as soon as you meet. If not, then there is always the next lucky lady. Good luck!
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As I took a slow walk along the creek behind my house one sunny Sunday last year, I was looking in awe at the ravaged scenery, and the shrubs that some people would argue are flowers, and smelling the water in the creek (that I’m am sure comes from the sewers), when a bird shit on my head. I thought “oh well” just another ordinary day. As I walked along, I came across a friend of mine that I will call Stinky and please don't ask why I call him that, I think the name speaks for itself. As we walked, I mentioned to him that a bird had done its business on the top of my head, and he replied “where is that tree you were walking under, its good luck”. If I had thought for one minute that it was good luck I would have found some dog dirt and rolled around in it, (as you may have figured Stinky really doesn’t have much of a life, but then again, were two of a kind).
Our biggest problem is communicating with women. Stinky can usually mouth a few comments, then he has to go away. I’m a little more relaxed since I work with quite a few women anyway. I can usually start a conversation with them before I start to sweat and have my confidence escape me, then I have to politely excuse myself.
Stinky feels that women's standards are too high when it comes to dating, however, I beg to differ. I really don't believe for a minute the women suggesting that he have a shower before picking her up is considered “high slandered”. Stinky might be the least washed fellow I know, but he is one of the nicest (nicest not brightest). However, he will often come up with intelligent idea's that make more sense then not, but I'm not sure about this one. “We will join a Dating Site” he yelled out. I said before sometimes he comes up with good idea's but this wasn't one of those times. He proceeded to explain that a friend at work suggested the idea(nice friend). “Is this the same friend that leaves deodorant and body wash in your locker”? I asked. “It sure is! He's a very thoughtful person,” (ya right). Stinky said “My friend met a wonderful women on a dating site,” (what women?? the guy he's talking about is gay!) “Why would your gay friend use a dating site to meet women?” I asked, “I think your getting in over your head”. In the end, and after weeks of hiding from Stinky and his crazy idea, I finally decided to give in just to keep the peace.
As I tried to sleep that night, all I could think about was the last date I had, which, to me, had been a dismal failure. I’m sure the woman I'll call (“never full”), hadn’t eaten in a week prior to our date and she must have thought I had a big trust fund or something! After she had swallowed several hors d'œuvres, as well as several other side dishes, expensive wine and a double order of lobster, I checked the balance on my credit card, then to my horror she suggested we order desert! “Desert!?” I quickly reminded her that this was not an all you can eat buffet, she then jumped up called me things I've never heard before and stormed to the door. Like the desperate person I am, I ran after her and asked if she would like to get together with me again, at which time she slugged me with her hand bag (I guess that meant no!). So I went back to the table and sat alone looking at the bill she had racked up and wondered if I would be able to get some overtime at work next week to pay for it.
I started to have a lot of doubts about joining a dating site, but since my best friend had his heart set on it (and knowing he would do anything for me), I decided to go through with it. It turned out to be the best thing we had ever done. Stinky and I both joined a Dating Site, and it wasn’t long before we had responses from some beautiful ladies. We were both very worried and excited to think that we might no longer have to make love to our hand. Stinky asked me “what should I do to get ready?”I said “just get in the shower, turn that water on, use that bar of soap (you only had it for whole year) and wash your worries down the drain”, (as well as the dirt and body odor of course).We double dated that evening to lean on each other, and we had a mind blowing time. We ate, had some drinks, and danced the night away. Stinky yanked me aside and that he was going to end up marrying his date because she was so perfect for him. I gave him a bear hug, and said “follow your heart,” and he did. She seemed to take to him as well, surprisingly!
Well I don't call him Stinky anymore, (no one does now that he has learned basic hygiene). He is and always will be, my best friend. Devon is still with the soul mate that he met on that dating site. This was several years ago and after dating for several months, they got hitched. They had one child and are expecting another any time now. As for myself, it took a little longer, but I finally found my life partner, and we are expecting our first child soon. Life is fantastic and it keeps getting better!
Its true what they say, there's someone for everyone. All you have to do is look in the right place and you'll find them. In many cases, it takes a nudge from someone who cares about you to get you going in the right direction . Life is too short and precious to spend it alone, wondering what your life would be like if you had done something to find that special person. So if you are interested in making a positive move for the future then take my advice, and get off your ass and make the first move.
Hey, if Stinky and I can do it, so can you! There are so many dating sites out there that you might think you'll never find the right one, but I'll give you a tip, this is the link that Stinky and I went to to find the best sites to join and in our opinion its the best place to find dating sites. So if you are tired of being alone and want someone to share your life and love with well just follow this link, you'll be glad you did.
Online Dating Sites
As I walked down to the creek behind my house one sunny Sunday last year, I was looking at the half dead trees, and the weeds that some people believe to be flowers, and smelling the water in the creek (that I swear comes from the sewers), when a bird shit on my head. I thought “oh well” just another ordinary day. As I walked along, I bumped into a friend of mine that I will call Stinky and please don't ask why I call him that, I think it is obvious. As we walked, I related the bird incident, and he replied “take me to the tree that you were walking under, its good luck”. If I had thought for one minute that it was good luck I would have rolled in it, (as you may have figured Stinky really doesn’t have much of a life, but then again, neither do I).
Our biggest problem is chatting with the opposite sex. Stinky can usually mumble a couple of sentences, then he has to go away. I’m a little more outgoing since I work with a lot of women anyway. I can usually start a conversation with them before I start to sweat and have my confidence escape me, then I have to politely excuse myself.
Stinky feels that women have unreal expectations when it comes to dating, however, I beg to differ. I really don't believe for a minute the women suggesting that he have a shower before picking her up is classified as “high standard”. Stinky may not be the cleanest person I know, but he is one of the nicest (nicest not brightest). However, he does sometimes on occasion come up with pretty decent idea's that make more sense then not, but I'm not sure about this one. “We will join a Dating Site” he yelled out. I said before sometimes he comes up with good idea's but this wasn't one of those times. He proceeded to tell me that a friend at work gave him the idea(some friend). “Is this the same friend that leaves deodorant and body wash on your desk?” I asked. “It sure is! He's a very thoughtful person,” (ya right). Stinky said “My friend met a wonderful women on a dating site,” (what women?? the guy he's talking about is gay!) “Why would your gay friend use a dating site to meet women?” I asked, “I think your getting in over your head”. In the end, and after weeks of dodging Stinky and his crazy idea, I finally decided to give in just to make him happy.
As I tried to sleep that night, all I could think about was the last date I had, which had not ended under the best of circumstances. I’m sure the woman I'll call “hungry”, hadn’t eaten in a few days prior to our date and she must have thought I owned an oil well or something! After she had consumed several appetizers as well as several other side dishes, expensive wine and the main course which was a steak dinner, I checked the balance on my credit card, then to my horror she demanded we order desert! “Desert!?” I quickly reminded her that this was not an all you can eat dinner, she then jumped up called me things I've never heard before and stormed to the door. Like the desperate person I am, I ran after her and asked if she would like to get together with me again, at which time she assaulted me with her hand bag (I guess that meant no!). So I went back to the table and sat alone looking at the bill she had racked up and wondered if I would be able to get lots of overtime at work next week to pay for it.
I started to have a lot of doubts about joining a dating site, but since my best friend was very excited about it (and knowing he would do anything for me), I decided to go through with it. It turned out to be the best move that we had ever made. Stinky and I both joined a Dating Site, and it wasn’t long before we had responses from some lovely ladies. We were both very nervous and excited to think that we could finally stop using blow up dolls for companions. Stinky asked me “what should I do to get ready?”I said “just get in the shower, turn that water on, use that bar of soap (you can't take it with you) and scrub your worries away”, (as well as the dirt and body odor of course).We double dated that evening to lean on each other, and we had an amazing time. It was a standard dinner and dancing date, but it just went so well. Stinky took me aside and confided in me, that even though he had just met this women, he knew this was the one. I gave him a brotherly hug, and said “follow your heart,” and he did. She seemed to take to him as well, surprisingly!
Well I don't call him Stinky anymore, (no one does now that he has learned basic hygiene). He is above all, my best friend. Devon is still with his special woman that he met on that dating site. This almost a decade ago now and after dating for some time, they got hitched. They had one child and are expecting another any time now. As for me, it took a little longer, but I finally found the love of my life, and we are expecting our first child soon. Life is terrific and it keeps getting better!
Its true what they say, there's somebody for everyone. All you have to do is look in the right place and you'll find them. Some times it just takes someone who cares about you to push you in the right direction . Life is too short and precious to spend it alone, wondering what it would be like to have someone to share it with. So if you want to turn around your life then take my advice, and get off your ass and go for it.
Hey, if Stinky and I can do it, so can you! There are so many dating sites out there it is easy to get lost, or waste you time on insignificant ones, but I'll give you a tip, this is the link that Stinky and I went to to find the best sites to join and in our opinion its the ultimate starting point to find dating sites. So if you are tired of being alone and want someone to share your life and love with well just follow this link, it will be the best move you ever make.
Online Personals
